Aaaaand Lift!

Galatians 6:2 says, “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”

This verse came up in my “Wisdom Hunters” daily devotional and it was right on the money. Yesterday Eric’s grandma passed away and we had a discussion about that very topic. After the phone call from his mom, Eric’s respond was, ”What can I do?” This was a wonderful question. In the past his response would have been more along the lines of, “There’s nothing I can do about it,” and he would been more of a bystander, life affecting him not him affecting life.

I remember loosing my mom and all of my sibs, and as many of their kids possible, packing into our house. Poor Tom and Jolene didn’t even tell us they had nearly frozen until it was over!
It was just great being together. We could talk about mom, or not. When a memory would pop up we could verbalize it and go through it. I’m not saying it was an “all healing” day or two but it was a step “through” the storm instead of trying to figure out away around the storm by stuffing the memories or grief. It is hard to believe how long ago that was as Taylor was a senior in high school!

Galatians 6:2 says, “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”

So how do you do that when there is nothing a person can really “do” but of course pray?

As Eric was talking to his mom, I was texting with his sister-in-law, Sindy. Unlike Eric who didn’t know his grandma very well, Sindy and Jon had purposefully made memories over the last 10 years and are experiencing a personal loss.

I have heard it said that when you lose someone older, you lose the past. When you lose a spouse, you lose your present. When you lose a child, you lose the future. Personally, I think there’s a lot of combinations in there, but I see their point. Jon and Sindy lost their past, but their present had previously disappeared with onset of Alzheimer’s.

Jon and Sindy were “heading up.” They had memories they could share with Eric’s mom, thus helping to “carry” her burden. Eric felt like he had nothing to offer. When he sincerely asked, “What can I do?” My answer was, ”Just be there.” There’s no magic bullet to take sadness or grief. Sometimes just having someone crack a joke to lighten a painful single moment can lift the feeling of being crushed. To me, that can be the epitome of “carrying a burden.” Holding it off of a person long enough for them to heal, gain strength, then be able throw the weight off of themselves—as much as we’d like to, no one can do it for them. We can keep them from being crushed if we are in close enough proximity. If that can’t be done physically, phone calls or FaceTime can be AMAZING—as Taylor did for me when I felt the crushing weight of grief.

To make a long story short—to late—bearing one another’s burdens doesn’t mean you have to have all (or any) of the right answers. Sometimes it can just mean showing up and staying as long as you can😉.

To be honest, I haven’t really had to think about this for a long time. It was really cool to not feel the stress of “What do I do now?!?!” but instead say, “Do you want/are you ready to go and just be there?”

“Aaaaaand lift!”

Until next time: blessings!

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