Is My Kindness Showing?

Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

“But I already know them and they know me. Aren’t we past the ‘kindness’ stage?” Ummmm, by that verse? My understanding is…make that a “no.”

It’s crazy! Until recently, I’ve been alone for over three years and except for work and some social outings, life has been veeeery quiet. The pups speaks volumes with their eyes but, alas, their input into my life is inaudible for the most part.

When I am out and about, the store, church, what have you, I notice the way people interact with each other. To be honest, it makes me step back and examine myself,”Did I do that????” Often, I watch (yes, I am a “people watcher”) as individuals speak but don’t look at each other, even when they aren’t moving. Then there’s the bigger than life sighs like the other did some sort of offense never experienced by the human race, or the eyeball roll, just to make sure the other knows how ridiculous they have been. It’s painful to watch. I move on quickly, eyes down, as if I’ve accidentally seen their underwear and am too embarrassed to let them know it’s hanging out for all to see.

Crap, I just got a zinger.

Do true friends tell you that there is spinach in your teeth? Do true friends tell you your slip is showing? How about that pimple that is on the end of your nose? You nearly die a million deaths when you see it in the mirror and wonder how long it was there, yes, even at nearly 50! A true friend would have told you, right?

This verse reminded me of how having kindness: being friendly, considerate, and generous, is easy to forget when we are with the people we love. Since they have to love us anyway, it’s almost considered a wasted effort. Not according to this verse. He said,”to one another,” last I checked, that includes the people who have seen and are used to my uglies.

Now the ouchie question: if I love someone enough to tell them there is a green wad in their teeth, do I love them enough to put my arm around their shoulders, draw them close, and whisper,”your kindness isn’t showing.”

Ouch!!! “I could never…!” I know, me either, but oh, how I hope someone would love me enough to say that to me. Would you do that for me, please?

Maybe I should make this bigger! Maybe I could check with my family and friends, telling them I want to better myself and ask them to let me know(in the “kindest” way possible) when my kindness isn’t showing and encourage me to try it again.

What do you think?

Until next time: Blessings!

Author: Tracy Cook

Widowed one week before our 27th wedding anniversary, Heavenly Dad continues to carry me, now blessing me with a second chance for love.

One thought on “Is My Kindness Showing?”

  1. Thank you. Wise counsel.

    Admitting that you are aware of not being kind at times and wanting to be told when you are not being kind (held accountable) is wisdom and humbleness. Humbleness, the opposite of pride

    Whoso loveth instruction loveth knowledge: but he that hateth reproof is brutish.
    Proverbs 12:1

    When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom.
    Proverbs 11:2

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