“The Spirit gives life; the flesh counts for nothing. The words I have spoken to you—they are full of the Spirit and life” (John 6:63).
What about the words we speak to ourselves?
One issue abused/neglected kids have is always thinking they have to prove themselves. If they had done_________ or been better at __________ their negative situation would not have happened. They constantly beat themselves up with the self-talk of “woulda, shoulda, coulda,” but you know that is just not true. That was Archie’s biggest silent monster. Mine, too, but my experiences were later as a teenager, not as a little kid whose parents left them for months to be cared for by teenage siblings, through no fault of their own. That’s why the easiest way to manipulate a child in these situations is to say,”they are family” or “like family.” That is what they have been yearning for their entire lives.
In my time with my heavenly dad this morning He was talking about the words that come out of my mouth. I told you, I have triggers of ugly that I battle. When one of those is pulled, the words that come out of my mouth are anything but uplifting. They are self-centered and accusatory.
Another area I am constantly at war with is negative self talk. “Tracy, that was so stupid!” Do you ever do that? What do you do when your worst enemy is yourself?
“The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit” (Proverbs 15:4).
My heavenly Dad was touching on my triggers, but pointing at the way I talk to myself. My “woulda, shoulda, coulda’s” are there, but that doesn’t mean I have to feed into them. How do I remind myself that I have value and worth, especially when I am nothing more than a name on a piece of paper to so many?
How…? Heavenly Dad said to try to see myself through His eyes. How do you look at your children, nephews, or nieces? Hopefully with eyes of love, compassion, hope, and value, seeing gifted, unique, creative, beautiful, handsome, and inspirational children. That is the way my heavenly Dad sees me and you. How do I remind myself?
Attached to my Wisdom Hunters today was this video that rocked my morning. Maybe it will do the same for you.
Until tomorrow: Blessings!