Last night was exhausting for both Taylor and I. This morning neither one of us felt like getting up and moving. What do you do when you don’t feel like or don’t want to do anything……the video resonating in my head,”Do the next right thing.”
You get up and go to work.
We talked about how the world seems to keep moving around us and we feel like we are frozen in time and space. Very descriptive. So as people walk around you and casually ask “how are you doing” and we want to try to get back in the “game”, we stuff it. We think we deal with it and that’s where the next point comes in:
Repressing feelings are burying them alive and they will resurrect themselves at inopportune times: being short with our family or coworkers, bursting into tears, being distant, refusing to love for fear of lose. Those symptoms were enough for Taylor and I to decide we best learn how to walk thru this and find healing or reap life long consequence–no thank you.
We also learned that God meets us where we are at, not where we wish we were. We recognized that one minute we may be laughing and everything seems to be healing, and then we see, think, or even smell something that reminds us of Archie and that brings a wave of emotions. The moment of what we thought was a step forward turns into a black whole that we tumble into. God is with us in both places, the mountains and the valleys.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. ”
Yes, that used to apply to Archie and me. But what do you do when one is never going to come back? You surround yourself with other like minded people who feel what you feel and are watching out for you because they KNOW you will fall…because they have….and are there to help pick you up. And we will do the same for them.
When it comes down to how we face our next moment, unsure if it will be a mountain or a valley, we will chose just to…do the next right thing, just like everyone else in Grief Share. We are doing this together.