People or No People? That is the Question

 Hebrews 10:24-25 “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.“

I’m tired! When I saw this verse, if I were a a cat I could safely say my fur stood up on end. Seriously? Aren’t you tired too? I know they say we’re supposed to get 7 to 9 hours of sleep, but how many people really do that? Our average is probably 6 1/2 and that’s if we are lucky. Saturdays lately are either catch up, travel, or normal business as that’s our one day off. Sunday, which is supposed to be our day of rest, ends up to be running to church, to pick up whatever we forgot during the week, and then small groups.

As you can tell, our day of rest has been put on the back burner once again. How did we get here? One “urgent“ matter after another. When we were trying to figure out what to cut out, Sunday night seemed like our only valid opening, but that was small groups. We examined: do we look for another night for small groups? That means we’d have to switch groups and we didn’t want to do that. What do we do?

Let’s hit the pause button: Little things have come up in our lives, or in the lives of our group, challenges or things heavy on their hearts. We have a group text of about 6 to 8 people and when they have concerns they just pop in “Hey, can you pray for me for…“. Everyone rallies around. There’s been some awesome answers to prayer like Eric‘s job. Sometimes there’s just support and someone else to check in so that we feel like we’re not alone. Honestly, though, it’s more than that.

Yesterday I heard about a lady who was desperately looking for a personal relationship. She wanted to be accepted and loved. Someone did show up, but it wasn’t anything close to what she had in mind. In this decision to pursue this relationship she made the choice to turn away from what she believed (spiritually), all of her family, her friends, and everyone associated. My heart hurts for her and everyone that misses her so dearly.

I was comparing her situation to when I was a widow. I felt Very alone. When I would connect individually, often the questions were directed to/at me. One secret of a relationship is if you don’t share some of yourself, the other person feels interrogated. I had a couple of those relationships. I think they were curious about the widow’s life.

Of course, then there’s the miracle in my story, with the church of Siloam and amazing Grace who walked into my life. When I think about this lady’s story in comparison I see how my story could’ve ended much differently-not that it’s over, LOL.

Time to hit the play button: when considering where we cut out time, I look at the people around us. If the people from Siloam and Grace would have focused on how tired they were, they would never have had time for me.

Hebrews 10:24-25 “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.“

Those people, especially Grace, encouraged and challenged me. Grace still does when we get together for coffee. If it weren’t for them I truly believe I wouldn’t be on the other side of healing. I would never have felt the joy in my daughter’s wedding. I would be grieving and not be able to fully feel the blessing of my granddaughter yet to be. I was and am capable of loving Eric.

With them as an example, I realize that my time of needing people to fill my cup is over. It’s time to be there to pour into someone else. I can’t do that if I am cutting the “people“ and getting together, out of my life.

Back to the drawing board, but this time with an attitude of gratitude ❤️.

Until next time: Blessings!

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