Have you ever taken a personality test? If you have, maybe you now understand why you are the way you are…and wish that you weren’t. Hmph.
Taylor, Arch, and I all took the DJ personality test which uses GEMS to give us insight into who we are/were. The weird thing is we all have the same strongest trait: we were all Emeralds.
What that looks like is that we all were very organized, factual, we follow instructions to the letter, not understanding why other’s cannot, get frustrated when people refuse to load the dishwasher as stated in the handbook, are not very trusting/are doubters/inquisitive, and our favorite question is,”Why.” Do you know anyone like that? 🙂 Thankfully we all had secondary strengths that help/helped us chillax. The odd thing about that was NONE of our secondary traits matched.
Arch was our competitive Ruby. Committed because everything in life is a challenge. Snazzy dresser who wanted quality in the items he purchased. These are driven people, very charismatic by nature. When they play, they play to win. If they cannot win, they won’t play. The downside is they take on too much, burn out and can be very emotional.
Taylor is our Sapphire, at least that’s what her test showed. I actually think she is more rounded than Arch and I this was her secondary. These individuals usually flutter from one shiny idea to the next, when they get bored, and they can’t stand still–that is totally NOT Taylor. These were the kids that were in detention, but made friends with the principle–again, NOT Taylor. BUT, they dress in very noticeable attire and LOVE LOVE LOVE people! They get energized building relationships and have friends from their youth–that is Taylor to a “T.”
I am a strong Pearl. If I have something and you need it, I’ll let you borrow or have it. I have deep desires to help and am health conscious. I would be a terrible business owner because if I had a product that someone needed and they gave me a feasible sob story, I am wired to give in. Thankfully, with the training I have received, I do have an even stronger desire not to enable anyone to continue on a downward spiral, if I can help it.
The thing I hate most about myself completely aligns with the pearl traits. I allow myself to be walked on for a period of time. Suddenly, a switch flips and I’VE HAD ENOUGH. Yep, my eyes pretty much roll to the back of my head and I explode–only to apologize later, of course. Arch used to be totally taken back like,”Where the heck did that come from?” Then he’d track all of the times I had asked people to stop hurting my feelings, or all the times I had been taken advantage of/walked on previously and then he was like,”Ohhhhh…no wonder.” Yep, he caught on. I just thought I was the only one, now I know there’s an entire group of “me’s” out there. I’m not sure if that is good or bad…the jury’s still out.
So which are you?
With this insight we found it easier to communicate and understand each other and the people we work with. I cannot tell you how many times tours are given and the Emeralds, Rubies, and Sapphires explore and ask billions of questions leaving the pearls…wall flowers. Inner(and exterior, but dressing comfortably) beauty and giving individuals but very quiet. I do have Ruby in me, especially being married to one for 27 yrs, so the pearls are my challenge. I love drawing them out and learning their stories.
So now you may ask, “What does that have to do with anything?”
Hebrews 10:24-25 “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.”
Another challenge: getting to know those around me, listening, and learning how I can stir up/encourage them in love and life.
I/we don’t met with others outside of work. Taylor and I still feel awkward around people. We don’t know what others expect of us so we feel like we are walking on egg shells. The people at work are safe. They’ve seen us morph on a daily bases, so they know where we are on our journey. It’s hard to catch people up on passage when there are so few words that fit the description.
Honestly, it would just be easier to start hanging out with people, explain once, then move forward. But…who with? Lots to pray about.
Until tomorrow: Blessings!